Thursday, August 30, 2012

Perfect Lies ~ A Book Review

Our susceptibility to believing lies goes clear back to the fall when Satan asked Eve, “Did God really say . . . ?” How many lies have we heard and believed since then?

It’s time to break the destructive cycle, sisters!

These secret thoughts can ruin us spiritually, emotionally, and physically. In her book, Perfect Lies: Overcoming Nine Hidden Beliefs That Stand between You and a Healthy, Joy-Filled Life, Jennifer Crow tells the story of how these destructive lies crippled her emotionally and physically to the point where she could barely even walk and how she was healed through meditative prayer. She also details nine lies that we believe, gives the antidote, and leads the reader through what she calls a Picture Prayer exercise.

I was reading this book in a McDonald’s PlayPlace a couple of weeks ago, and, in that part of my mind that I can’t ever really turn off, I was also thinking about the SuperTarget right next door. That SuperTarget is our closest one, and it’s over 30 minutes from our home. We don’t get there much, and I was reading and wondering what I “needed” from that Target. I love almost everything about Target, a love that blossomed when I was a cashier there my senior year in high school and my eyes were opened to everything the store held as I rang it up. (No scanners then, girlfriends!) As I sat and read, I also thought that surely there was something there that would make my life better and happier if I just looked long enough.

Guess what Lie #9 is.

“I am deprived. I must indulge myself in order to be happy.”

Whamo! Right between the eyes.

It’s a truth I had thought of before, but right at that moment I needed that reminder. “You will begin to miss out on the wonderful things in your life right now, today, if all you are doing is hoping for something better in the future. Whether it’s an extra slice of cheesecake or a new pair of shoes, or something bigger like a new career, house, or husband, the truth is, you don’t have to have these things in order to live a beautiful life of satisfaction and contentment.” (p. 217)

So, no problem with contentment? What about Lie #1? “I must meet the standards others have set for me because otherwise I will be unlovable.” We are lovable, even to the point that God sent His only Son to die for us, but that can be hard to remember and live out in the midst of rejection and condemnation.

What about Lie #6? “I must avoid conflict because expressing my anger is wrong.” But is conflict and anger always wrong?

And just what is meditative prayer? Another phrase Jennifer uses for this is “Picture Prayer.” I’ve actually been praying in a meditative fashion for years as a way to combat fear and negativity as well as a way to feel closer to the Lord. It seems to work in the same way as when I read fiction. As I read the story, my mind puts it into pictures or images. I “see” the story play out in my mind. With prayer, I focus on positive thoughts straight out of Scripture and picture them in my mind. Playing these Scriptural pictures over and over in my mind helps to eliminate the negativity that I’m far too apt to believe about myself.

Perfect Lies: Overcoming Nine Hidden Beliefs That Stand between You and a Healthy, Joy-Filled Life by Jennifer Crow, published by Tyndale House Publishers, is a book I plan to reread on a regular basis, going over my underlining, focusing on the pages which have a corner turned down, eliminating the destructive lies in my life.

Tyndale House Publishers has provided me with a complimentary copy for the purposes of this review. All opinions are my own.

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  1. I think lie #1 is a difficult one for most of us.
    I found you via a link up somewhere, I open so many pages at a time that I forget where I found you :)

    1. It's sad to say it, but I think a lot of what we do is determined by what others might think when our biggest concern ought to be what God thinks. Thanks for your honesty and for stopping by!

  2. I've been thinking a lot about lie #9. We must plan to make good choices (food, money, ect). Also true happiness comes from self sacrifice, not self indulgence. Easy to write, but hard to live by. Thanks for the book review, I'm glad I stopped by from Reading List blog hop. Blessings to you.

    1. You're right -- planning is so important! If I'd just wandered into Target, not knowing what I was looking for, there's no telling what I would have walked out with and at what cost. I had no plan and no defined need, so I didn't go in. (That time. . . . very hard to live by sometimes.) Thanks so much for commenting!

  3. Thank you for the sweet comment you left on my blog. It does my heart good to see adoptive adult women who are fulfilled through knowing God. It's all I hope for in my adopted children. Have a blessed day!

  4. Love this - the fact that while you were super multi-tasking (I'm so guilty of this) the truth was presented to you in clear black and white. We need it to be that obvious all the time.

    Thank you so much for linking up at Cozy book hop - this might have to be one of the books I add to my reading list


    1. When that happens, I get goose bumps -- uh-oh-I've-been-caught goose bumps but also wow-God-is-talking-to-me goose bumps. You are so right that we need it to be that obvious. From your lips to God's ears! Thanks so much for stopping in, and I hope to see you again!

  5. Sounds like an interesting book. Thanks for sharing about it with the Thrive @ Home community!


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